For your mom

I usually forgo gift recommendations based on specific relationships or holidays in favor of suggestions based on personalities and recurring social events. But with Mother's Day right around the corner (May 8 - don't forget!), I am making an exception. You can't go wrong giving a gift based on your mom's personality, but there are several gifts to consider that are better suited to moms than other recipients on your list (like a house cleaning or laundry service). 

Although most people associate Mother's Day strictly with mothers and grandmothers (not surprising, given the day's name), don't forget about those other women who have been influential in your life and helped guide you to become the person you are today. Consider surprising an aunt, friend, mentor, or any other woman who has impacted your life with a little token of your affection. I guarantee that, regardless of what you give her, the fact that you thought of her on Mother's Day will mean the world.

Here are some suggestions that are sure to delight your mom or mother figure:

Flowers: It's hard to go wrong with flowers. Whether you send them alone or along with another gift, flowers are a visual reminder that Mom is brings light and beauty to your life. Send her favorite kind if you know it; otherwise, choose something bright and cheery like daisies (regular or gerbera), lilies, or sunflowers. Also consider giving her a plant for her garden or a potted plant in a fun container so she can enjoy the gift even longer.

Time: Ask any mother what her perfect gift would be and she will probably answer "spending time with my family." Make her wish come true with the gift of quality time or a visit home. Schedule a family outing, a lazy day by the pool, or even a nice meal together for a gift she will never want to exchange.

Chore Service: Moms of any age have those "maternal" responsibilities like laundry, cooking, and cleaning (if dad takes care of these duties in your family, just ignore this recommendation until Father's Day). Give her a day or two off by outsourcing these tasks to someone in her area, either by giving her a gift certificate for the service or making arrangements with the vendor directly.

Spa Treatment: Moms seem to have an ingrained work ethic that is second to none, and most of them find it hard to take a break and relax. Pamper her with a spa treatment, such as a massage, manicure/pedicure, or facial. For extra points, schedule a spa day for the two of you, or for her and Dad together.

Portrait: I've never met a mother who doesn't love pictures of her family. If it's been awhile since your last family portrait, this would be a great gift for Mother's Day. You could have a portrait of the kids and grandkids made in advance, or schedule a session for the entire family (plan it for after Mother's Day if you want it to be a surprise). For a less formal gift, consider a photo book from Shutterfly - they look polished and allow you to customize the whole thing. You could memorialize your (or your child's) childhood, a special family trip, or visits to Grandma's house.

Jewelry: Jewelry is a great gift for some moms but a horrible one for others. If you know your mom likes jewelry, feel free to give her a new piece. However, if she wears the same thing every day and you don't have a clue what kind of jewelry she would appreciate, steer clear. If you decide to go with jewelry, remember to choose a classic piece and stay away from anything cheesy.

Coffee/Tea: If there's one thing most moms need, it's caffeine. Get Mom her favorite blend of liquid energy or pick up a gift card to Starbucks or another coffee shop. If she prefers tea, treat her to a gourmet blend from Teavana or Harney & Sons. Another great choice is a coffee or tea of the month club subscription, like the Kona Hawaiian Organic Coffee Club, Caribou Coffee of the Month Club, or Teavana Tea of the Month Club (12 Months). Also consider an accessory like a new tea or coffee pot, mug, or storage canister.

Tickets: Treat mom to a night on the town with tickets to a movie or show you know she'll enjoy. If you live close enough or can schedule it, go with her for a double gift of the outing and quality time together! 

Gift Basket: If you can't decide on a single gift, give mom a gift basket full of her favorite goodies. You could include lotion, muffins, coffee, tea, perfume, popcorn and a movie or rental voucher, her favorite candy, a restaurant gift certificate, body wash, candle, or bottle of wine. Put the items in a nice basket she can reuse and finish it off with a colorful spring bow. If you need a ready-made basket, Gourmet Gift Baskets offers a wide selection that's sure to please even the pickiest mom.

What are you giving your Mom this Mother's Day?

For the administrative professional

No matter where you work or who you work with, you encounter support staff on a regular basis. If you work as a support staffer, you know that your priority of supporting your boss can lead to a whole new level of crazy each day. If you work with administrative professionals, you know how important they are to keeping your business and affairs flowing smoothly and running interference between you and everyone who is demanding your time and attention. You also know, better than anyone, how much they deserve recognition and appreciation.

Administrative Professionals Day is April 27 and provides the perfect opportunity to say a big 'thank you' to the people who make your life easier (some people celebrate the week of April 24-29 rather than only on one day). Not only is recognizing your support staff a nice gesture, but it will also keep peace in your workplace (trust me, you do NOT want to be the person who doesn't participate in Administrative Professionals Day while everyone else in the office is showering gifts and praise upon their staff).

The International Association of Administrative Professionals (IAAP) recommends giving "observances that recognize and provide opportunities for learning and growth," such as registration for business skills training programs or seminars, membership in professional organizations, or new office products like an ergonomic chair or software upgrade. See their website for more suggestions and information about Administrative Professionals Day. However, you know (or should know) your staff's preferences well enough to decide whether such a gift would be appreciated or viewed as self-serving. If you're afraid the IAAP's gift recommendations would be less-than-well received, keep reading for more personal gift ideas. Regardless of what you decide to give, be sure to include a nice card with a heartfelt message thanking your assistant and telling them just how much you appreciate all they do for you. And whether or not you have your own support staff, be sure to always say please and thank you to any assistants you encounter (especially this week, but really you should do it all the time).

Here are some suggestions for showing your administrative professional just how much you appreciate them:

Cash: Some people still shy away from giving money, but many staff members would rather receive the gift of cash than anything else. In these economic times, giving cash allows your staff member complete freedom and discretion in how to use your gift. It also makes your job as the gift-giver much easier because it eliminates all the guesswork and most of the effort. There are no hard and fast rules on how much is appropriate to give, but a little Internet searching indicates that the amounts vary between $10 and $100, with most gifts seeming to fall in the $25-$50 range. When deciding on an amount, don't feel like you have to give until it hurts, but do choose an amount that reflects how much you value your staffer's contribution to your workplace.

Gift Card: In the same vein as giving cash, gift cards essentially allow your recipient to choose his own gift. They are also a nice alternative for those who want to give money without actually having to give cash or a check. If you give a gift card, be sure to choose one from a store you're sure your staff member likes or one that can be used in multiple places. You can't go wrong with a voucher for a nice local restaurant, local mall (that can be used in all shops), Amazon.com, or a prepaid debit card from Visa or American Express.

Flowers: On their own, flowers are a nice gesture to show your appreciation to your staff. But for Administrative Professionals Day, they also serve as a physical statement that you have recognized your staffer's contributions. My advice is to give a small flower arrangement or plant in addition to another (more private) gift. For male staff, go with a plant or more masculine flower arrangement.

Time Off: Another popular gift is to reward your assistant with extra time off. Depending on your position, you may be authorized to award extra paid vacation time, or you might need to get clearance from your human resources department. If the company is uncooperative, you could discuss letting your staffer take an unpaid absence and paying that day's salary yourself.

Lunch: Taking your staff out for a nice lunch is a great way to show your appreciation. Let them pick the place and spend time getting to know each other outside the office.

Cake: Like flowers, but tastier, bringing a cake or cupcakes for your staff is a nice public gift that the whole office can enjoy. But before you bring in 10,000 calories on a plate, make sure your recipient isn't on a diet or allergic to any of the ingredients. A delicious-looking cake loses its luster if you find out too late that your staffer is lactose intolerant or gluten-free.

Office Products: One of the IAAP's gift recommendations is to upgrade your staff's office supplies and/or furniture. Consider giving ergonomically correct furniture, computer or software upgrades, or premium quality products. You might also want to give fun items like a personalized notepad or stationery or a few items from Knock Knock (makers of humorous office supplies like Do - Ponder - File file folders, Information Central Paper Mousepad, and Blah Blah Blah sticky notes).

Event Tickets: Everyone needs a break from the office, so why not give your staff tickets to a special event in town? Give tickets to a show, concert, or sporting event your assistant would enjoy so he can have a night out on the town with friends or a significant other.

Spa Services: If you are especially close to your staff, consider giving the gift of pampering that only a trip to the spa can accomplish. A massage, manicure/pedicure, facial, or body wrap is a great way to say 'thank you' and rejuvenate your assistant. But be careful: something personal like a spa gift should only be given if you have a close relationship with your recipient and you are the same gender. A massage gift certificate from a male boss to a female staffer might not send the message you're aiming for, and might get you a message of your own from HR.

What are your favorite gifts to give or receive for Administrative Professionals Day?

For the globetrotter (memories)

By this time, you have equipped your globetrotter with everything he needs for his next trip - essentials, gadgets, and miscellaneous items. But what about those travelers who already have all of these things, or who aren't traveling anytime soon? For them, consider items that commemorate their travels and bring back memories of their world jaunts.

Although you don't have to worry as much about space constraints here as you do with other travel items, make sure your recipient has the space to display your gift and the desire to have it. That is, don't give cufflinks to a man who doesn't own a suit and avoid a large map or piece of art for someone in a rented space who can't put anything on the walls. Other than these considerations, use your imagination - it's hard to go wrong with anything that reminds your globetrotter of his trips or favorite destinations.

Here are some final (for awhile) suggestions for the traveler on your list:

• Traveler Map: This product is listed first for a reason - it is the perfect gift for any and every traveler. I received this map a few years ago and it has been one of my favorite possessions ever since. The original version (and the one I have) is a world map, but there are also US, kid's US, and European editions (along with maps for US golf courses, national parks, and baseball stadiums and country maps for France, Germany, Italy, and the UK). Each map comes with a personalized nameplate and pins to mark past travels, dream destinations, favorite spots, and the next planned trip. There are plenty of other maps you can personalize, but this is my favorite by far. For any serious traveler, buy an extra set or two of pins so she doesn't run out. You can buy from the original manufacturer, Stone Arch Merchants, but a number of other stores sell them as well. This world map mural (wall sized and laminated for easy writing and erasing) and scratch off world map (a colorful world map covered with scratch-off foil) are also neat options.

World Traveler Map (photo courtesy of Stone Arch Merchants)

Jewelry: For a globetrotter who regularly wears jewelry and accessories, an upcycled or original piece is a great travel memento. For women, look for rings and necklaces; for men, consider cufflinks or a tie clip. Repurposed transit tokens from major cities make unique gifts - you can find them fashioned into cufflinks (link: choice of Boston, New York, San Francisco, Honolulu, or Chicago), rings (link: Boston), and necklaces (link: Philadelphia). Many stores also offer cufflinks made from original (link: Vatican) and handpainted (link: South Korea) coins or featuring city manhole covers (link: various locations), flags (link: South Africa), and signature items (link: UK red phonebooth). Many tie bars also feature country flags, like these Irish and UK versions. For a personalized option, consider cufflinks or a necklace with a custom map location. Choose one of your traveler's favorite destinations or special places, such as a honeymoon spot or vacation home. You can find pre-made and custom pieces in several Etsy stores - my favorites are this cufflink and necklace set (perfect for newlyweds with their honeymoon destination) and these custom black and white cufflinks.

Handpainted bronze Australian coins - many of these coins were removed from circulation and used in the bronze medals for the 2000 Sydney Olympics (photo courtesy of Cufflinks Depot)

Collectibles: For a traveler with space to display items, think about giving a small decoration or two that reminds her of a favorite destination or spot. Consider country or city symbols or mottos, famous landmarks, and classic representations of a place (like a double decker bus or red phone booth for London). I like this Arc de Triomphe stamp, New York map handkerchief, and these Paris map playing cards. One of my favorite products is the city-in-a-bag series, shown below, that includes several miniature representations of the city. Check out MUJI for more great selections and ideas.

City in a Bag Tokyo (also available in New York, Paris, and London) (photo courtesy of MUJI)

Replica double decker bus (photo courtesy of London Transport Museum)

Photos: Travelers always have lots of pictures from their travels and would love some help getting them into a tangible format. For globetrotters using digital cameras, give credits or a gift card that allows him to print out his photos. I use Shutterfly for my travel pics, which offers three prepaid plans of 4x6 prints - $54 for 600 prints, $44 for 400 prints, and $20 for 200 prints. They also offer other products made from your traveler's photos, including books, coasters, calendars, and puzzles. If he uses a film camera, give him a gift certificate to get his film developed. If he already has his pictures printed but needs a way to display them, give him a gift certificate for a local craft store where he can get frames, such as Hobby Lobby.

Art and Maps: An interesting and quality piece of art is a great reminder of traveling. Think framed pictures (like this Eiffel Tower construction progression), paintings (maybe a reproduction print of a piece he saw during his travels), or sketches (a favorite city landmark is nice). Also consider maps of a favorite destination - you could get a modern version or find an antique map of the area, or frame a map of the city's subway. Etsy sellers bananastrudel and OldMapsandPrints have some great authentic vintage maps at very reasonable prices. For a unique twist on a traditional map, I love Etsy seller studiokmo's handmade city maps - especially her original mapcuts (link: various cities including Singapore, London, Paris, Berlin, and Sydney), original ink drawings (link: Melbourne), and mapcut designs printed on stretched canvas (link: Dublin) and heavyweight paper (link: Amsterdam). Here are some more of my favorites: London and Paris paper cut prints, framed original London Tube and bus destination blinds, world map memo board, city map plates, and country dish towels.

Original 1902 map of western Austria-Hungary (photo courtesy of Etsy seller bananastrudel)

Globe: Every globetrotter needs a nice globe for reminders of her travels and quick reference when planning future trips. You can find globes all across the price spectrum, but don't feel like you have to spend big for a quality globe. National Geographic has a classic quality version for $99, and Amazon has lots of great globes for much less (search "desk globe"), including perpetual motion globes in a variety of colors (they complete a full rotation every 18 seconds, powered by a hidden battery) for as low as $17.77. Of course, you could go for a more expensive model like this Frank Lloyd Wright floor globe ($800) designed by the architect himself or this Lead Crystal Everest Globe made from crystal and billed as "the world's finest globe" ($8000).

National Geographic's classic non-illuminated desk globe (photo courtesy of National Geographic)

Shower Curtain: This suggestion may seem somewhat random, but I have long been a fan of these shower curtains that help you learn a new language. Each curtain includes 100 English words and their translations (and pronunciations for Japanese and Chinese) and comes in Spanish, French, Japanese, Italian, German, and Chinese). You might also consider this world map shower curtain or this photo shower curtain with pockets for photos, cards, and small trinkets - what great way for your traveler to start every morning!

Spanish shower curtain with English and Spanish words (photo courtesy of Amazon)

Dining Experience: One of the best ways to recreate a travel experience at home is through food. Take your globetrotter to a local restaurant that serves cuisine from one of her favorite destinations or make her an authentic meal at home. Check out Saveur and the World Hearth Recipe Collection for recipe ideas and Urban Spoon for nearby restaurants.

Travel Box: Serious travelers have lots of mementos from past adventures and inspirations for future journeys, and these items deserve a place of their own. Also called a hope/dream chest or memory/keepsake/heirloom box, this provides a special (and organized) place for your globetrotter to keep ticket stubs, old passports, postcards, brochures, and travel articles. You can go as large or small as you want, but remember that a tiny box isn't going to allow much room for dreaming. Find any kind of box you think will inspire your recipient - my favorites are wooden, but you can get any material with as little or as much decoration and color as you see fit. Take a look at this heirloom box made of reclaimed wood, vintage wooden travel box with leather strap closure, and custom heirloom chest with your choice of calligraphy text to get you started.

Reclaimed wood heirloom box (it reminds me of a treasure chest!) (photo courtesy of Etsy seller artisanwoodcraft)

Map Chair: I've featured this product before but it is well-worth mentioning again. This decoupage chair is custom-made by Etsy seller Bombus (who also makes the atlas journal mentioned in the previous post) in your choice of map - choose a city, country, or the world! It is a true piece of art and makes a great conversation piece for any devoted traveler.

Map chair featuring London (photo courtesy of Bombus)

What are your favorite items to remind you of traveling?

For the globetrotter (basics)

To some people, travel is an activity - it's what happens on their annual two weeks of vacation and provides a nice break from everyday life. For others, travel is a passion. It's what gets their blood flowing, occupies their daydreams, and tempts them to quit their day jobs. If they aren't traveling, they are researching destinations and planning their next trip. Many of their conversations mention travel and they are the unofficial travel agent for their friends who are planning a trip. These hardcore globetrotters are easy to identify and even easier to buy for - that is, once you get inside their minds.

That's where the Gift Guru comes in. I am an unabashed travel-oholic and am here to help you shop for your recipients who share my disease. Rule #1: no matter what gadget or luggage you find, there is no better gift than travel itself. Travel is what we crave, and if you have the means to make it happen, please do. Travel is a great gift for a graduates (especially from college or post-graduate school), newlyweds, retirees, and those celebrating anniversaries. If you can't give a whole trip (which is very understandable), consider giving something toward their next adventure (see below for specific ideas).

When giving to globetrotters, there are a few things to be aware of. First, if you are giving all or part of a trip, make sure it is something your recipient will enjoy and can actually use. If she is planning a trip to a remote part of Africa, a voucher for a week at the Ritz won't help much. Second, assess your traveler's personal inclinations and habits when traveling. Does he follow his guidebook and stay on the tourist path or explore the area on his own to discover local gems? Does she spend time with locals and try signature dishes or find the most American food in town and sit alone at the bar? Does he party all night and sleep until noon, or rise at dawn and go for a run? Does she take hundreds of photographs a day or spend the afternoon reading in the park? Answering these kind of questions will help point you to the perfect gift and keep you away from a largely useless one. Finally, no matter how cool you think it would be to arrange all of her travel tickets and luggage tags into a collage, make sure you have her permission to use her stuff before you do anything with it. Travelers are very picky about their gear and mementos, and what you think would be a great surprise could turn out to be a gift fiasco for the ages. I don't say that to imply that travelers are hard to please (just the opposite actually), but to caution you against using your recipient's personal property without his permission (this is a good rule for all gift-giving, not just globetrotters).

Because there are so many great gifts for travelers, I will do several travel posts, each focused on different types of travel presents. Today we will look at basic travel gifts, followed later by gadgets, home mementos, and miscellaneous (but tres fabulous) items. Whether you are shopping for a twenty-something backpacker or a VIP octogenarian, here are some ideas to help you make their next trip unforgettable:

• Trip or credit: As I said, the best gift for a traveler is travel itself. If you can't give the whole trip, consider giving a gift certificate or voucher for a hotel or a booking site like Expedia or Travelocity. Frequent flyer miles and hotel rewards points that your recipient could use would also make a great gift. Another great gift is a nice meal or activity at their destination. Many major restaurants and museums allow you to buy entrance tickets or meal credit online. Just ask your recipient about his plans for his next trip or search for activities or restaurants for a known destination to get some ideas. Finally, if he is a first-time traveler or visiting a destination that requires additional entrance documents, you could give cash or a voucher to allow him to purchase a passport or visa.
• Luggage: Most seasoned travelers already have luggage but may be in the market for a new or replacement piece, and new travelers probably need some durable and reliable gear. The type of travel is key here - rolling suitcases are great for more stationary trips, whereas backpacks are better for younger travelers who frequently move around. I prefer Kelty bags, and own the Red Cloud 6650 and Kelty Hawkeye Pack (I swear by them both). If it's a carry-on suitcase you need, consider the Balanzza Truco Carry-on, which separates into 3 compartments to allow you to fit it into whatever space you have (specifically, into airplane carry-on compartments). For a traveler with lots of waiting time, take a look at Zuca Sport Wheeled Luggage that includes a seat on top capable of holding 300 pounds.



Balanzza Truco carry-on (photo courtesy of TechnaBob.com)



Zuca Sport Pro (photo courtesy of Overstock)

• Camera and/or accessories: A good camera is essential for documenting travels and preserving memories. Most travelers choose to go digital - instant pictures, no film to worry about, and much easier to carry around. If your recipient already has a camera she likes, you could get accessories like extra batteries or chargers, bigger memory cards, a carrying case, or a different lens (like wide-angle or fisheye). A tripod is also a great gift - you could get a traditional three-legged model, but there are also plenty of smaller, more travel-friendly options. Some of my favorites are the original Gorillapod, the magnetic Gorillapod, and the water bottle tripod. If your recipient likes to video her travels, consider a video camera or a digital camera with video capabilities (most have the capacity for short video, but quality and length of recording time vary).

Original Gorillapod Flexible Tripod (photo courtesy of Think Geek)

Water bottle tripod (photo courtesy of Amazon)

• Guidebooks: Most travelers (except the most hardcore ones) usually consult a guidebook when visiting a new place, but guidebooks aren't cheap when you're buying ten a year. A print version like a Lonely Planet guide is useful for everyone, but travelers with smartphones or e-readers can also use electronic guides like apps or e-books. If you want to give a guidebook but don't know your traveler's personal preferences (or even her next destination), you can always give a gift card and let her buy her own.
• iPod touch: Some people might not consider this a travel basic, but I will never again leave home without mine. The iPod touch is essentially an iPhone without the phone or worldwide internet access. However, it has Wi-Fi, so you can use it anywhere there is an internet connection. It also has access to Apple apps (including many of the guidebooks mentioned above, city guides, and even subway and bus maps), a camera, a translator, a calculator, music, videos, and games. The new versions are capable of video chat, making a quick call home very simple and cheap. It comes in 8GB ($209.99), 32GB ($274.99), and 64GB ($364.95) models.
• Passport cover/travel wallet: Nice versions of these aren't cheap, but they are nowhere near as expensive as replacing a passport abroad. Leather versions are classic and provide the best combination of protection and style. But be aware that US passports and many new credit cards have RFID electronic chips in them, which thieves can skim through your wallet. Many new wallets and passport covers have incorporated RFID blockers to prevent skimming; make sure that any wallet you buy includes this protection.

Leather passport travel wallet that can be monogrammed (photo courtesy of Comfort House)

Basic RFID blocking leather passport case from Amazon (photo courtesy of Amazon)

• Power source: In this electronic age, powering gadgets on the road is of great importance, third only to having a passport and currency. Your traveler needs the correct plug, voltage, and plug availability, and this is where you can help out. I love Belkin's surge protector that plugs into an outlet, providing three AC plugs and 2 USB connections (USB connections are especially important for travelers who don't take laptops with them but have devices, like iPods, that charge through USB plugs). Pair it with an international plug adapter and a voltage adapter (if necessary) and you have a great gift to keep your traveler at full power at all times.

Belkin Mini Surge 3OUT Wall Mount 75K 918J with USB Charger ($13.49) (photo courtesy of Amazon)

Universal World Wide Travel Charger Adapter Plug ($0.99) includes plugs for North and South America, Europe, the Middle East, Africa, Asia, and the Caribbean (photo courtesy of Amazon)

• Travel wrap: Finally, every traveler needs a multifunctional item to keep her warm and cozy during her adventures. A great choice is something like White + Warren's cashmere travel wrap, supposedly a favorite of Angelina Jolie, which can be used as a scarf, a wrap, and a blanket. Look for an item that does double or triple duty, comes in a color that your traveler can combine with lots of outfits (but also won't be ruined if they spill something on it), and isn't too bulky. I would buy this for either a male or female, though I would choose a neutral color for a man.

Cashmere travel wrap by White + Warren (photo courtesy of Saks Fifth Avenue)

Coupons

• Magellan's, one of my favorite sites for travel gear and products, is offering 25% off their adventure travel clothing until January 30, 2011.
• Samsonite will take $30 off every $150 you spend online through January 30, 2011 with this code.

Readers, what are your favorite travel-related gifts? What is your favorite destination and where have you always wanted to visit? (Mine are the iPod Touch, Paris, and Jerusalem, respectively.) Share your answers in the comments below!

For the film buff

Tonight was the beginning of the prime time Hollywood awards season. The Golden Globes kicked things off and will be followed closely by the Screen Actors Guild Awards (January 30), BAFTAs (February 13), the Academy Awards (February 27), and several other events that allow Hollywood to get fancied up and heap praise upon itself. Awards season also means that some of the best movies of the year are playing at the theaters or newly available to purchase, so otherwise recreational movie-goers transform into hard-core see-all-the-nominees film fiends. 

But there are some people who love movies year-round, regardless of awards, popularity, genre, or critical reception. These people appreciate the art of filmmaking, bask in the thrill of the story, and know the theater employees by name. Some may aspire to be filmmakers and devote significant time to studying the history and production of films, while others may simply love watching movies. No matter the level of your recipient's love for the silver screen, here are some suggestions to help you choose the perfect gift for them:

• Their favorite movie: although your movie fan probably already owns a version of his favorite film, he may not own it in a new format (like DVD or Blu-Ray) or have the special edition/director's cut/anniversary edition/etc. A true movie lover can't get enough of the extras or the latest version of his favorite film.
• Movie player, TV, or accessories: if your recipient hasn't upgraded to the latest movie technology, she will jump at the chance to experience her favorites in a new way. Consider a Blu-Ray (or DVD, for late adopters) player, HD or 3D TV, projector, or computer-to-TV device like Apple TV.
• Netflix subscription: Netflix is an absolute must for anyone who loves movies or TV. Your recipient can watch online, through Wii or XBox, or at home (depending on the plan). You can choose to give 1, 2, 3, 6, or 12 months of 4 different plans (3 with at-home DVDs and 1 streaming only).
• Book with a movie tie-in: Many movies have books associated with them, either as their precursor or written after the fact. If a movie is at all popular, there is probably a book about it. If no book is directly on point, you could give one with a similar history or on the same topic (e.g. a WWII history or a personal account of D-Day for a Saving Private Ryan lover).
• Movie poster: there is something about movie posters that brings home the theater experience. Choose an original if you can find it; otherwise go with a reprint or even a foreign language print. Bonus points if you find a limited edition or one autographed by someone associated with the movie.
• Gift certificate/card: a voucher for a local theater or an online ticket site like Fandango will allow your movie buff to continue her love affair with the newest additions to the silver screen. You could also give a movie rental (like Blockbuster) or an iTunes gift card (to buy or rent movies or TV shows).
• Movie food: although this isn't an actual food category, anyone who has been to the movies knows what I mean. Buttery popcorn, sugary candy, and huge soft drinks are just a few of the things that make the movie viewing process complete. Throw in some special seasonings and a theater-like movie tub for the popcorn, and you will add the finishing touch to your recipient's next viewing experience.
• Movie-themed games: see how much he really knows with a trivia game about his favorite movie (or movies in general). You could also choose a movie edition of another game, such as Lord of the Rings Trivial Pursuit DVD Game: Trilogy Edition or Scene It? Deluxe Movie 2nd Edition.
• IMDb Pro subscription: IMDb (Internet Movie Database) is the go-to website for movies. For $15.95 per month, an IMDb Pro membership allows access to in-depth actor information, film production details, and show business contacts. This is the closest your film buff will get to being a Hollywood insider without actually breaking into the business.
• Movie cataloguing software: most movie lovers have lots of titles in their collection, and this software makes cataloguing them a breeze. Packages start at $29.95 from Collectorz.
• Gift basket: combine some of the items above into a gift basket, like a movie or a rental gift card with popcorn and a box of candy, for a perfect night of silver screen fun.

If you are looking to spend a little more time and/or money, here are some unforgettable presents that will make you a gift-giving legend:

• Movie premiere or screening: if you are well-connected and can pull this off, arrange for your recipient to attend a movie premiere or early screening. Regardless of the movie he sees, it will be an experience of a lifetime.
• Acting role or visit to a movie set: again, you'll need to have some strings to pull (or just have very powerful friends, who I would like to meet), but arranging for an acting role, even as an extra, or a visit to the set of a movie currently in production is a truly unique experience. If you are able to make this happen, be sure to follow up by giving a copy of the film as soon as it is released.
• Movie prop or replica: look for a memorable item featured in your recipient's favorite movie - the more iconic, the better. If you can't find an authentic item, consider a replica or a similar item, like this villain chair from Suck UK that looks like a prop from a vintage Bond film or a Hamburger Telephone from Juno.
• Film experience: recreate a special scene from her favorite movie, or take her on a trip that follows the movie's plot. My favorite example of this is an anniversary gift for a wife who's favorite movie was The Notebook. Her husband took her to Charleston, SC, where the movie was filmed, and they retraced the characters' steps and recreated their experiences. Or, instead of visiting the film's location, journey to the actual setting of a historical story (like the Scottish Highlands for a fan of Braveheart). If you can't afford to take a trip just for this purpose, you could try to work it into a future vacation or recreate a portion of it closer to home.

What are your favorite movies and movie items?

For a wedding shower

Thanksgiving is long gone, Christmas has come and passed, and Valentine's Day is just around the corner. That can only mean one thing . . . wedding season is imminent. Invest in Bed Bath & Beyond stock, make The Knot your home page, and block out every Saturday between February and August for a wedding or wedding-related event.

Wedding season brings its own unique gift challenges, but the Gift Guru is here to ensure that you enter this year's season of love prepared for any wedding, shower, or party your engaged recipients may throw at you. My brother, B, is getting married at the end of April to K, and I am very much looking forward to their wedding and all of the events preceding it. Rest assured that I will be taking much of my own advice when it comes to gift giving in the coming months.

Today, we will focus on the wedding shower (wedding gifts will be covered soon). Wedding showers used to be known exclusively as "bridal showers," presumably because they were only for the bride. You knew exactly what to expect (at least in the South) - a Sunday afternoon gathering in the church parlor with butter mints, Sprite-based punch, lots of lace, and gifts of towels, china, and linens. Nowadays, wedding showers know no bounds. There are couples showers, which both the bride and groom attend, in addition to the traditional bride-only showers (I'm sure that someone has thrown a groom-only shower, but I only know these gatherings in the form of bachelor parties, so I am omitting them here). There are linen showers, stock-the-bar showers, around-the-clock showers, entertainment showers, lawn and garden showers, gift card showers, book showers, lingerie showers, travel showers, culinary showers, spa/pampering showers - the sky is truly the limit. Regardless of the type of shower you are attending, here are some basic etiquette tips and gift suggestions to get you started.

According to The Knot, it is proper etiquette to give a gift both at the shower and at the wedding (see their full explanation here). You may choose to give a smaller gift at the shower and save a larger gift for the wedding, but the choice is yours. If you happen to be invited to multiple showers (which you shouldn't be), WedNet says that you need not give a gift at all of them, or even attend them all. Feel free to choose a gift for one shower and simply attend the others or bring a nice card with a warm message inside. You might also decide to bring smaller gifts to multiple showers rather than a larger gift to a single shower. One exception to the one-shower-gift rule is if you are a close relative of the bride or groom, such as a mother or aunt, in which case you may wish to give gifts at each shower. In this situation, you might want to buy a set or the entire quantity of a requested item (like plates or place settings) and give one or two pieces at each shower.

Most couples these days have registries at one or more stores, and these can greatly simplify your gift choices. But remember that registries are actually just "suggestions" for gifts, and you are not bound to them when choosing a present. If the shower invitation doesn't include registry information, search for it  at The Knot or Bed Bath & Beyond, or ask someone close to the couple where they are registered. Personally, I prefer to err on the side of caution by choosing something from the registry unless I am very close to the couple, know of something specific they would like that's not on their registry, have access to a gift they would like but can't get, or find a great gift that I just can't pass up. I try to avoid cutesy items, gifts that are only relevant to the wedding (such as a bag that says "Bride"), and items that are too personal (like sheets). My rule of thumb is that unless I know the recipient(s) well enough that we exchange gifts on other occasions like birthdays and holidays, I usually just stick to the registries.

If you have lots of events to attend for multiple people, you might want to choose a staple gift to make your life easier. If you go this route, make sure that the gift is something that almost everyone would appreciate and probably didn't register for. My mother regularly gives quesadilla makers as wedding gifts, and they seem to be a big hit - they are easy to use, work for people of all taste preferences, and most people haven't thought of registering for them (and probably didn't realize that they existed). Other gifts that might be appropriate staples are Nap blankets from Brookstone (which are buy one get one 50% off right now), a set of nice towels in a neutral color (getting them monogrammed is a nice touch), or candlesticks with candles. If you find them on sale, stock up and make your life easier the next time you need a wedding gift.
*A Gift Guru word of warning: always make sure that your recipient will enjoy the gift. If you usually give an engraved cocktail shaker and top-shelf liquor, for example, choose another gift for the teetotaler couple.

No matter what marital gathering you need a gift for, several websites are a great place to start.

• The Knot is wholly devoted to all things weddings. It is primarily a resource for brides, but also offers some great gift ideas and etiquette tips for guests. It allows couples to create their own wedding webpage with information about the ceremony, reception, and their registries, making it the most likely location for finding wedding registries for your recipients.
• The Wedding Channel Store is geared more toward those throwing the wedding, but also has some gift suggestions for guests.
• Bridal Shower Etc. offers tips for planning showers and giving thoughtful gifts.

In addition to the registries, here are some ideas for all of your wedding event needs:

• Anything with her/their new monogram: this could include a scarf/pashmina, towels or linens, doormat, coasters, ice bucket, serving tray, or placemats. Be sure that the bride is changing her name before you give this kind of gift. If not, consider using the couple's first names or initials instead.
• Stationery: in the same vein as monograms, every bride loves personalized items to take her into married life. You could give notecards, personalized stamps and stamp pads, notepads, or traditional stationery sheets, either with her new monogram or both their names. Choose something age appropriate that can be used for formal correspondence or a quick note to a friend.
• Drinkware: everyone needs nice glasses for special occasions or formal dinners. You can't go wrong with traditional wine or highball glasses. If the couple has registered for these items, you might choose something more specific, like martini or margarita glasses.
• Beverages: a nice bottle of wine/champagne or spirits is a thoughtful gift, especially for first-time homeowners or the newly independent couple. Combine with glasses or coasters for a sure hit.
• A massage or spa gift certificate: every bride (and non-bride, for that matter) could use a time of relaxation and pampering to have her stress lifted and energy renewed. If their honeymoon would accommodate it, you might even want to give them a couples massage for when they arrive.
• Group Gifts: if you can't afford the gift you want on your own, ask other attendees who you are close to if they want to go in with you to get a more expensive gift, such as fine china, expensive cookware, or a nice appliance.
• Gift Baskets: if you can't think of one big gift or narrow down your gift ideas, consider making a gift basket. Start with a nice basket the couple can use later, line it with fabric or tissue paper, and start filling. You might pick a theme (such as honeymoon, kitchen, or laundry) or just assemble various items you find interesting or helpful. You could also choose a favorite recipe and give the dishes and utensils used to make it, along with the recipe itself.
• Services: if you are especially good at something, give the gift of your talent. This might include calligraphy, sewing, drawing, painting, pet or house sitting, or gardening. If you can do it well, consider gifting it to the newlyweds. But remember: only give a gift that you think they will really appreciate, and not one that will potentially cause problems or hurt feelings (i.e. don't offer to take their wedding photos if they already have the perfect photographer booked).
• Books: a first edition of their favorite book, a book about their honeymoon destination or wedding location, or a quick and simple cookbook for a new chef can make a great present. Consider giving a bundle of books if you feel like one isn't enough, or choose one book and combine it with another gift (like a basket of goodies).
• Games: for a fun-loving couple or frequent entertainers, a game could be the perfect gift. Fun items are often overlooked as wedding gifts but are much-appreciated by couples. Consider games like Cranium, Apples to Apples, Jenga, or Banana Grams, or a card set with chips. Pair with a card table for an all-around gift of fun!
• Gift Cards: If everything left on the registry is out of your price range, you don't see anything you want to give, or you are simply at a loss, you can't go wrong with a gift card. They are less personal than a traditional gift but much more appreciated than a random present that is destined to gather dust. Pick up a gift card from a store where they are registered, a favorite restaurant or unique experience, or a home outfitter like Bed Bath & Beyond, Target, Pottery Barn, or Crate & Barrel.

As a special treat for Gift Giving Guru readers, here are some wedding-related discounts:

• Save 10% site-wide, 15% on orders of $80+, and 20% when you spend $125+ with this offer from Red Envelope, which offers unique and personalized products perfect for a wedding shower. Enter REDTIER at checkout.
• Take 20% off your order at Linens 'N Things through January 18 with the code WHITE20.
• Save 25% when you spend $250+ at Exclusively Weddings through March 31.
• Bed Bath & Beyond, where most couples seem to register, routinely sends coupons for 20% a single item to members of their mailing list. I often use these coupons to purchase wedding and shower gifts, and most cashiers will let you use them even if they have expired. Sign up here.

UPDATE: No matter what you decide to give, make sure you include a gift receipt in case the couple gets multiples of the item or there is a problem with the product. Thanks to Caitlin for the reminder!

What are your favorite shower gifts to give or receive?

Green goodies

My friend and fellow blogger Green Gourmet K has posted a list of her favorite green products on her blog The Green Gourmets. She has some great earth-friendly suggestions that are sure to please anyone on your list. Also check out the rest of her site, where she writes about green food choices, restaurants, and recipes. The food sounds delicious and would make a yummy and healthy choice for your holiday gatherings!

For the unexpected holiday recipient

One of my favorite things about the holiday season is visiting with family and friends, many of whom I rarely get to see otherwise. Having unscheduled visitors or attending a last-minute rendezvous can be a wonderful treat, but it can also create an uncomfortable situation because these events often involve gifts. If a guest brings you a gift but you didn't have her on your list, or you need a gift for an impromptu party or meal, you could end up embarrassed if you don't have a present to offer.

To make sure you never face this problem, keep some all-purpose gifts on hand, wrapped and with a generic gift tag (e.g. "Happy holidays from the Smith family") with room to fill in the recipient's name at the last minute. Make sure your gift will work for both genders and a variety of ages. A Gift Guru tip: if you choose a gift that you like, you can enjoy any left-over presents when your gifting is done!

Here are some suggestions for all-purpose gifts to keep in stock this holiday season:

• Baked Goods: These are always a treat to receive and add a personal touch to the gift-giving process. You could make the food yourself or buy it from a bakery. Breads and desserts are a good choice that most people enjoy and are easy to package and keep on hand.
• Popcorn: The Christmas popcorn tin may be the classic all-purpose gift, and with good reason. The popcorn is yummy and the tin makes a great storage bin after the last kernel disappears. You could also pop your own and season it with your favorite toppings, such as butter, cinnamon sugar, or caramel, and put it in a bag tied with festive ribbon.
• Drinks: Your favorite bottle of wine or spirits makes an excellent gift and allows you to (honestly) tell your recipient that you love this gift and thought he would too. Other beverage gifts include spiced cider, Russian tea, or another specialty you enjoy. You may also want to consider a nice hot chocolate set or a bag of premium coffee or tea. But be careful: if you choose alcohol as a gift, make sure you don't have any possible recipients who are teetotalers (or keep an alternative gift on hand for them).
• Gift Cards: These are a wise choice if you need gifts for a diverse group of people. Either choose several vendors or stick with one, but make sure that your recipient can purchase something there with the amount you give them. You can't go wrong with cards for movie theaters, restaurants, or Charity Choice (which lets your recipients choose a cause to support with your gift). I recommend avoiding overly practical gift cards like gas and grocery cards, as these seem impersonal and may indicate a lack of effort on your part.
• Blankets: When the temperature drops and the power bills skyrocket, it seems like you can't have enough blankets. Everyone loves a comfy blanket, especially a fleece version. Wrap it up with a seasonal ribbon and you have a guaranteed hit.
• Books: Choose a favorite book that has universal appeal, such as a classic novel or a funny memoir. You could also buy several different books to match different personalities - just make sure to label them somehow after you wrap them so you don't get them mixed up!
• Candles: Most people spend a good deal of time indoors during the winter, and they appreciate when their home smells nice. Just make sure to choose a quality candle, like a Yankee Candle, or a pretty one suitable for display. A word of warning: pick a neutral or popular scent, such as clean linen or vanilla, rather than something your recipients might find unappealing or too strong.
• Ornaments: You can't have too many ornaments, and with all the choices available, chances are low that you will pick one your recipients already have. Add a personal touch with a message like "Happy Holidays from the Jones family" or "Merry Christmas from Matt and Sarah" and you have a gift that will serve as an annual reminder of your friendship. Ornaments also make great repeat gifts - just choose a new design each year and simplify your universal gift-giving. 

Although there are plenty of great gifts that will help you out in a pinch, there are also several you should avoid:

• Personalized Items: Don't choose a gift that you will need to personalize at the last minute or that you mark with something generic (like "Merry Christmas to our friends" without including their names).
• Anything Offensive or Partisan: Remember that you should avoid offensive items in all gift-giving, and all-purpose gifts are no exception. Keep the political books and fart machines out of your gift lineup.
• Sports Items: Even if you live and die by your school's success on the football field, your recipients may not feel the same way. Never give gifts that are more about you than your recipients, and this goes doubly for personal choices like sports teams.
• Fragrances and Lotions: Because these recipients weren't on your original gift list, you probably are not close enough to them for such a personal gift. Stick to something less intimate - many people have allergies or very specific preferences regarding these items.

What are your favorite gifts to keep on hand during the holidays?